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Sunday, October 11, 2009

Maternal Worries

I guess I worried too soon yesterday. Turns out they did very well, and the directors told them so even before the results were announced. I'll blame it on an early morning that did not start out well and still thinking of my 14 year old as a sensitive preschooler.

I can already see that it will continue to be hard to see my children face adversity as they grow older. When they're small, I can wipe the tears and counsel about friendships and give constructive help. As they get older, I can listen, and facilitate activities, and nag about responsibility. And I'm sure as they leave the nest we'll be torn by the need to support financially versus the character building of making it on your own. I can only hope that we find the right balance. I don't want my children to come back and live in the basement, but on the other hand, I want them to know they will always be loved and we'll catch them if they fall.

I don't think it gets easier as they get older, just different.


Susan Z said...

I'm learning the same thing. It's hard to let them get hurt or have problems, but if we want them to be able to deal with life on their own we have to let them. As a teacher I have always felt it is better to let them fail at a little thing early rather than fail at something big later.

Lisa C said...

I'm dreading having to face that in the future. It's nice right now being able to fully have Matt dependent on me, but he's starting to want to explore more which is good. So... hopefully we can all find the right balance, and even if you don't. Knowing that you are trying and keeping that in mind is probably just as important!